that’s being done out of a low-consciousness state is being done on purpose. You don’t even think your thoughts on purpose. Think about it, where do thoughts come from? Nobody knows. Not even science. When did you decide to think something? Did you yourself even decide it? No, it just came to you.
“When you are aware that you are thinking, that awareness is not part of thinking. It is a different dimension of consciousness. […] If there were nothing but thought in you, you wouldn’t even know you are thinking.”
– Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth)
This is why you can talk to yourself and observe yourself thinking and feeling. But you think your thoughts and feelings are you, you identify with them and that’s where all the problems you think you have stem from. This is a state of low consciousness. You are neither your thoughts nor your feelings, you are the awareness aka consciousness behind all those things.
But most people have no clue, they are completely asleep, which is why you can’t blame them for any of their “bad actions”. They are controlled by their minds and they don’t even know it.